You are worth all the good thoughts and feelings you can have about yourself.  Your life will be pure joy if you are filled only with positive thoughts and feelings.

Sometimes there is something going on in us, however, that we allow to get in the way.  And sometimes that can be a matter of holding onto un-forgiveness.

Is there someone in your life, including yourself, who needs to be forgiven by you?  There are many of life’s events that would seem to be unforgivable.  This is erroneous.  Anything can be forgiven, including the most heinous crime.  Keep in mind we are talking about the forgiveness of a person, not the condoning of any action.

Give some thought to the most “unforgivable” occurrence you have experienced.  It might be something that has separated you, in whatever way, from someone you love.  It might involve someone you never knew or saw again.  Or it could be that you can’t forgive yourself for something.                                                                                  

Now think about how you feel when that event comes to your mind again.  Do you still feel hurt, anger, guilt, or rejection?  We all know those feelings are negative, and they do nothing to make us feel good.

An important thing to remember, when dealing with unforgiveness, is that those negative thoughts and feelings do not influence the one not being forgiven.  They only influence you.  You are the one who feels the ache in your stomach when thinking of this event.

Give yourself the gift of healing.  Forgive the person concerned, no matter how grievous you think the act might have been.  Do it for yourself.  You will be the one who benefits, and you are worth it. 

Hold a picture of that person in your mind (even if it is you), and tell him/her/yourself that you are releasing the unforgiveness in your heart. 

Having performed this mental act does not mean you have the responsibility for contacting anyone to let him or her know you forgive them.  For example, you might have experienced the breakup of a friendship because of some event.  You may never really be friends with this person again.  Perhaps it just isn’t meant to be.  But we’re not talking about the relationship itself.  We’re talking about your healing, the letting go of something in you that has caused you to be less than your best.

Forgiveness is good for the body, mind, and spirit. 

To be wronged is nothing unless you
continue to remember it

                                                       Confucius

The weak can never forgive.  Forgiveness
is the attribute of the strong.

                                                    Mahatma Ghandi

I hope your day is filled with forgiveness, for yourself and others.

Lana Keating